Between 1994 and 2004 I adopted 6 neices and 3 nephews: Teenagers with whom I had random conversations that turned into friendships that have survived. It is a process that I have enjoyed greatly, and I treausre all of them. Since then, I have added only one more nephew, and I wonder what has changed. I still have plenty of random conversations; I think that if anything I am a bit more interesting and a bit less scary. And yet my efforts to turn acquaitence into friendship fail. I am baffled and frustrated. It is a minor thing, but it rankles. Thoughts?